Let me take a step back, before I start here.
What I meant by "I have question ?" ... I am sure I have one, but who is this question meant for ? For my family, friends, colleague or myself. Of-course, all question that originate from me, definitely meant to put through, for me first; but beyond ...
Shall I ask another question to myself - what is it in there for "whom" I put it forth. Why would that person bother to answer me --------
With this I wish to emphasis not on whether or not should we speak up - a question; a statement; a comment; suggestion; at times even compliments ... but but but ... the power / influence of being at speaking end ...
World is major driven by two primarily indicative for speech ... benefit and fear ....
benefit for the receiver --- and / or fear of the speaker ...
Let's gauge it, why would you listen to anything or anyone ... because -
- try to find something in it
- love the person, and want to pay attention (be all ears...)
- if i don't, i get caught there may be repercussion
... list is endless or if I may put it like this - judge yourself, the most harmless, selfless sentence that you wish to share, you would definitely be in a position to put it in either one or both the category above.
Whenever you start conversation, first ask your-self what's there in it for the other person, unless you want to scare them. Never scare, because you may get through your words ONLY once by scaring, as there is a very naive (yes, naive and need not be artful) quality of human to recover from threat.
Would you not prefer someone talking to you about you ...
